Rubber Band Theory In Marriage

Ok so i know what you re thinking isn t that just absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Rubber band theory in marriage.

Sometimes they want to be close and connected like a coiled up elastic band. Called the rubber band or the male intimacy cycle it s when a man vacillates between being close to his partner and pulling away. But it s definitely true. We hope we re talking about the same thing because as we think about it the first time we heard about the rubber band theory was when we originally read john gray s book men.

The elastic band theory states that guys are like elastic bands i later amended it to apply broadly to people. Just met five minutes ago let s say you re hitting it off with a cute guy at a party. I don t always hear it referred to as the rubber band theory. The most important reason is to connect with their more masculine side and to focus on the activities that make them a good provider and partner.

You may have basically told him to go away and not bother coming back. The beauty of the rubber band effect is that you can and should use it at every stage of your relationship to drive up his desire. However as a marriage becomes less satisfying and as stress in the marriage grows the tension in the rubber band increases even when nothing stressful is happening. Once you get to a point in dating relationship marriage where you have discussed the rubber band theory you can be supportive of his need to pull away but ask that he be supportive of reconnecting when he has had his space.

Men do this for many reasons. We hope we re talking about the same thing because as we think about it the first time we heard about the rubber band theory was when we originally read john gray. While this is a normal and. This is not a happy scene.

One of our long time subscribers to our newsletters wrote to ask if we support the rubber band theory in relationships in our breakthrough coaching practice. The theory is simple distance yourself from the other person become aloof as it were and watch as they come pinging back to you like a stretched rubber band hence the name. Continue reading on the next page nextpage stage 1. The elastic band theory seems to imply that we should all be mean to each other to keep each other.

A healthy marriage is a able to recover from the rubber band s stretching and return to the relaxed state. All of a sudden he seems more interested in getting a drink than in you. Have reconnect time after he finishes his pull away stage. This cannot be wise advice.

One of our long time subscribers to our newsletters wrote to ask if we support the rubber band theory in relationships in relationship breakthrough coaching practice.